How difficult is it to be a single mother
Supporting single-parent families: How are single parents doing in Germany?
The at-risk-of-poverty rate for single-parent families is currently around 33 percent, compared to the population as a whole, this value is very high. The average in Germany is 16.7 percent. In other words, a third of the one-parent family is at risk of poverty. How can that be?
Less than 60 years ago it was unimaginable to become a single parent. For many women it was hardly possible to find an apartment, to take up work or to raise their children without support from family and friends. It's different today.
Today there are childcare places, significantly more government support and, above all, greater acceptance in society. Nevertheless, the risk of poverty has not decreased. In addition to financial worries, many single parents suffer from the feeling of not being able to do all of their tasks. The children do not get enough attention, the job cannot be carried out to their full satisfaction and there is hardly any time for friends and free time.
The most common reason for becoming a single parent is still separation or divorce. In many cases, the legal guardians share upbringing, yet every fifth child currently lives in a single-parent family.
Family policy measures: single parents are entitled to this
Of course, single-parent families are entitled to parental allowance, advance maintenance, tax relief and other measures. However, these support measures often do not work, as some would wish.
Take parental allowance, for example. Parental allowance is paid for twelve or 14 months, which means that parents are entitled to parental allowance as long as their child is infancy. However, parents are much more likely to become single parents only after their children are young.
Of the 1.6 million single-parent families with single children, 90 percent are mothers, which means that only every tenth single parent is male. Having children seems to be an economic risk, especially for women.
One of the biggest challenges for single parents is to work despite looking after the children. With a part-time job they hardly earn enough, with a full-time job there isn't enough time for the children. If they are unemployed at the time they become a single parent, it is particularly difficult to find a new job.
To be able to work, (not only) single parents are dependent on childcare places. Parents now even have a legal right to a childcare place for every child over one year old. Nevertheless, many children involuntarily do not have a childcare place. Working parents are also preferred when allocating places, so single parents also have a harder time looking for daycare places.
There is not enough care for children
One of the reasons for this is that there are too few childcare places. Almost 300,000 places are missing, according to the Institute of German Economy. There is also a lack of funds and staff. The job is simply not attractive enough - poorly paid, barely appreciated and extremely stressful.
Another problem is the opening times of day-care centers. Most day-care centers open in the morning and close in the early evening. The opening times are often adjusted so that parents manage to get to work at eight on the dot. But what about the parents who don't have a 9-to-5 job? Who work in shifts? And that doesn't just include employees who work at night. Mothers and fathers who start their work at 6:30 a.m. or finish their work at 8:00 p.m. also have difficulties reconciling work and family. And there are more and more flexible working hours.
24-hour daycare centers as a relief for single parents in shift work
In order to support precisely these people, there are (so far only a few) 24-hour daycare centers that are even supported by the federal government. Problem: they are hardly used.
The reason for this is probably the lack of acceptance in society. It is said, for example, that children would suffer trauma. The care model is controversial. How does the overnight care affect the child? Anyone who allows their child to be looked after at unusual times is subject to public reproaches.
Incidentally, the 24-hour daycare center does not, of course, mean 24-hour care at a time. The name only refers to the opening times. The name may also create the wrong idea.
So what can we do? Mother or father only pick up their child from daycare shortly before 6:00 p.m.? No need to judge. You can spend time with your child in the morning, at noon and in the evening. The stigma that attaches to many working parents should also change or dissolve, especially in times when the world of work is changing so drastically.
The world of work is not family-friendly for single parents
One could argue that we should not adapt to the family-unfriendly working conditions, but fight against them. Simply boycott stressful working hours? A luxury that single parents at risk of poverty can hardly afford or want to do.
Political engagement: Support single parents
So we can hold back with our judgment and also stand up for the support of single parents. We can become politically active by voting, participating in petitions or demonstrations, but also speaking openly about stigmata and making the issue more public. On the website of the VAMV (Association of Single Mothers and Fathers Federal Association), current campaigns and other political actions are clearly presented.
The supplementary child care project, launched by the VAMV NRW, is intended to support single parents in shift work who cannot afford additional care for their children (e.g. paid babysitters). 40 volunteers from Essen help around the clock to relieve working single parents (remuneration: eleven euros from the city coffers). So far this project has only existed in Essen, but an expansion of this project would be desirable.
Take action: how can the risk of poverty for single parents be reduced?
What has to change? Single parents need more care places for their children, financial support in precarious times and overall more acceptance - especially in the world of work. That means more state-supported childcare offers or, if in doubt, volunteers, a rethinking of many people in order to reduce prejudice against working parents and more consideration for employers.
Further information: The family report of the Federal Ministry for Family, Seniors, Women and Youth
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