Everyone deserves unconditional love

10 easy ways to show yourself the unconditional love you deserve

Everything starts with showing yourself unconditional love.

We've all heard it: To truly love others, you must first love yourself. And it's true. If you don't show yourself unconditional love, you won't let others really love you either.

I spent most of my life seeking love from others, but later I realized that all I had to do was look in the mirror. When I started loving myself first, everything changed.

The challenge is that our lifestyle these days is incredibly geared towards success by comparing ourselves to others and having the desire to do MORE all the time.

The result? We have become our own greatest critics - with a constant focus on our mistakes and not on our successes.

So when we hear that true love lies primarily in love for ourselves, we ask ourselves how we can move from constant self-criticism to unconditional love on earth. And it seems impossible!

When I started this journey, I didn't particularly like myself. The thought of loving myself was almost ridiculous.

Moving from self-criticism to self-love in one step is challenging, so it's important not to expect a drastic change overnight. Your relationship with yourself is no different from any other in your life - it takes time, attention, and effort to make a change towards unconditional love for yourself.

So give yourself time to build true self-love step by step. To make it as easy as possible for you, here are the 10 most important steps to create unconditional (self) love:

1. Accept yourself.

If you feel too far from love, start with "acceptance".

Accept yourself. Note the times when you would normally criticize yourself and instead start saying, "That's me and that's OK."

2. Realize that you are enough.

In a world where people's worth is judged by how they look, how much they earn, or what they have accomplished in life, it often feels difficult to accept that just being YOU gives you value .

You don't need anything anymore. You don't need to do anything or be more than you are right now.

You were enough the moment you were born, and you will be enough every second of your entire life. Remember this every day and think: I am enough.

3. STOP comparing and judging - now!

We learned to compare ourselves to our fellow human beings at such a young age. But when you compare yourself to others, you get drawn into adjustment, competition, and competition and you don't feel enough (see # 2).

The truth is that your worth is immeasurable and has nothing to do with it.

Judgment is just another form of comparison, and our judgment of others reflects the judgment we have placed upon ourselves. So, if you find yourself judging someone, find ways to show them compassion instead.

When you offer something to other people, you will likely find it much easier to instill compassion and understanding on yourself.

4. Respect yourself and set boundaries.

Every good relationship involves respect and healthy (reinforced) boundaries. So respect yourself enough to show compassionately to those around you what is okay with you and what is not. Just say “No” if you really mean NO, because that's how you set healthy boundaries!

5. Appreciate yourself (so you can appreciate others).

In order to develop a loving relationship with someone, you need to value them. Everyone enjoys hearing about the qualities one admires in them.

First, take the time to realize what you value and love about yourself so that you can ultimately do the same for someone else.

6. Take time for your personal “quality time”.

Quality time is important in every relationship - it is no different in a relationship with yourself!

Take the time to enjoy the things that are really good for you. Spend time with yourself and learn to feel good about yourself. Go to the cinema, spend time doing yoga, cook your favorite meal or just relax on the sofa with your favorite book. The most important thing is: take time for yourself.

7. Trust in yourself.

It is important that you trust yourself and take care of your interests - don't sacrifice your needs for the needs of those around you. Showing commitment and dedication to yourself is the best.

8. Become a master at communicating.

Any good relationship relies on positive communication, so take the time to get in touch with yourself. When you do this, you should listen to yourself and pay attention to what you really want and need.

Remember: Always talk to yourself lovingly. How would you talk to someone you love? How can you talk to yourself more lovingly?

9. Meet your own needs.

Everyone has needs. And if you want to love yourself unconditionally, you have to make sure that your needs are met. How? By fulfilling them yourself. You have to be really honest. Do you need time for yourself? Do you feel the need for more security and stability in your life? Do you need more adventure? Do you have to take some time to just “be”?

How can you give yourself what you need

10. Be kind and gentle with yourself.

We give the people we love space to make mistakes. We are compassionate to their challenges and appreciate their efforts. So don't forget to give yourself a little understanding as well as you learn to truly love yourself.

Since kindness is one of the keys to love, try to love yourself every day.

Ultimately, your relationship with yourself is just like anything else in life: it takes time and effort to build trust, learn, communicate, and make a loving connection.

And there is no better feeling than when you finally realize that you have a deeply loving, unconditional, mutually fulfilling relationship with yourself.