Where do relationships fail

A psychologist reveals: This underestimated mistake is often the reason why relationships fail

This article first appeared at HuffPost.
Getting to know each other, falling in love, kisses, sex, rose petal romance - relationships are, especially at the beginning, often like a fluffy, beautiful Disney film.
But a good relationship also requires a lot of work. Especially in oneself. Anyone of us who has ever led one can affirm that relationships are not always easy.
And sometimes they break up too. Relationship ends are there for all sorts of reasons. From A as in exclusion to Z as in contracting - the range of possibilities that can break the happiness of love is huge.
The most well-known reasons are cheating, cheating or living apart. There are many studies on this, and new ones are always being added.

A cause greater than cheating, stress, and alienation

The American psychologist Sandy Rea, however, believes she has found out that something completely different is the most common cause of a breakup: namely bitterness.
“Bitterness is synonymous with poison,” said Rea, who can also be seen as a relationship expert on the TV reality show “The Last Resort”, edem Australian online magazine “Honey 9”.
"It's like taking poison and expecting someone else to die. In the end, you're just poisoning yourself. It doesn't affect your partner."

Stubbornness is often the trigger for bitterness

Your own bitterness contributes to the fact that you are caught in a vicious circle, explains Rea. You always have the same arguments, lead the same discussions over and over again.
According to the expert, the trigger for bitterness is usually that one or both partners are extremely stubborn and stubborn.
If you don't want to deviate an inch from your own opinion and are not prepared to compromise with your partner, this quickly leads to bitterness and resentment, according to Rea.

There are ways to prevent this from happening

In order not to let things get that far or to get out of the vicious circle again, the psychologist advises listening to the other person carefully, empathizing with your partner and recognizing and admitting your own mistakes.
Now that we know, nothing can go wrong next time.