Why should I judge someone

Why do we rate others?

Last update: August 21, 2017

Don't judge anyone until you have stood in their place. This often heard sentence reminds us well: At some point each of us has been judged. Each of us has been the subject of a discussion at some point, was judged correctly or incorrectly, and was angry or felt hurt about it.

How can we respond to a judgment?

First of all, take a deep breath and gain some distance. Understand that the impulse to judge people and things is universal. It is something that has always been done and always will be done.

The second step is easy. Accept that what was said has nothing to do with you. Depersonalize it. The opinion or words of others do not define you. At a later time, you can reveal your point of view to the other so that they can see a more authentic truth.

Usually have the people who judge others the most, the least self-esteem. If someone does not accept himself unconditionally, he cannot accept others either. They are strict perfectionists who use every opportunity to judge others.

What is behind reviews?

Nobody likes to be judged. When we are judged, we are stamped and we feel constrained and small. According to psychologists we all have a slight tendency to ‘typify’ the people around us and to put them in drawers ’. Some are immature. Others are lazy. Still others are moody and irresponsible, or simply as negative as insecure.

And while we all do, there is one thing that we should be very clear about: If you don't want to be rated, avoid rating others.

And even if some of our reviews contain a grain of truth, it is always worth it pause for a moment and put yourself in the other person's shoes for a day.Try to understand how they feel, react, suffer, and interact with the world and us.

The people who tend to value others excessively often have the following characteristics:

1. Low self-esteem

People with low self-esteem often use reviews to put themselves in a controlling position. From this controlling position, they can more easily defend themselves and protect themselves from others. They call you unsure ’or a failure’, and that's only because they really feel that way. By labeling you, they are trying to take control of you and portray themselves as the complete opposite.

In other words: People with low self-esteem project their own insecurities and quirks onto others.It is much easier for these people to label others and judge them for things instead of seeing it in yourself. It is redeeming for them and gives them power.

2. Lack of empathy

Those people who find it easy to judge other people and who do so simply to hurt them lack empathy.In addition, these people, who are unable to see the complexities of others and understand that people are more than just simple types, may also find it difficult to see their own needs, flaws, and strengths.

It is always easier to judge others than to go into oneself and to look at oneself with humility while showing respect to other people.

3. Emotional wounds

There are two ways you can react when you've been hurt. The first is to learn from what happened on an emotional level, to act in a strong, resilient ’way, and to move forward.In return, you will become wiser in dealing with certain situations. In this way we become more empathetic people who, instead of judging others, know better how to deal with situations and who can understand others without pigeonholing them.

On the other hand there is People who are not particularly good at dealing with painful situations. They are full of resentment and resentment. It is so serious and harmful that they feel compelled to judge others in order to protect their own bitterness, worries, and inner demons.

Instead of seeing problematic situations from an open, creative, and respectful perspective, they act like bad guys. And that is a very harmful and dangerous behavior.

Before you judge others you should accept yourself unconditionally. This includes both your mistakes and your talents. When you work on your self-acceptance, you also build your self-esteem. And that's exactly what happens when you change the way you treat yourself and others.