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“I'm a lesbian!” - four personal stories

As I have rarely heard positive comments about homosexuality, it has become more and more entrenched in my head that most people think badly about it and think it is a negative quality. I was sure that if I was to be a lesbian, then I would have to constantly compensate for this flaw with as many positive things as possible, so that people I deal with can overlook it and still something want to deal with me. I had this feeling for a relatively long time, even when I was absolutely sure that I was a lesbian and I had come to terms with it. I had just finished school at the time. At this point I was ready to tell my parents and siblings about it, from whom I luckily always received tolerance and actually knew that it would not be a problem for them. Still, I've never been more excited in my life than the night I decided to finally tell them. The reactions were consistently very positive and understanding, which made me feel easier than anything else. After that, however, I was still of the opinion that this reaction was rather the exception and apart from perhaps the large cities that were apparently inaccessible to me at the time, the general opinion of the population on the subject of homosexuality was rather very negative.

That only changed when I was studying. At first I didn't tell anyone about it either because I wasn't sure how people would react and I didn't want to be expelled outright. In addition, I still had in mind that I would first have to convince people of myself in another way so that they still want to have something to do with me. But that changed relatively soon. I still remember a moment very clearly at the beginning of the first semester. I was celebrating with a couple of fellow students and there was also a lesbian couple, but none of them paid particular attention or looked at them strangely. It was the first time I'd ever seen a gay couple. Then also to see that nobody really cared about it was an incredible relief for me. Very soon I also noticed that my friends are totally open and tolerant of homosexuality.

From then on I felt more and more comfortable with it, even if I kept it to myself for the time being. At the end of the first semester, I came out to my friends. Everyone reacted very positively, which made me very happy. Now I could feel accepted for who I am and I finally had the feeling that I no longer had to pretend or hide anything.

In the meantime I have started to find out whether there might be some kind of meeting place in Tübingen where I could meet like-minded people. That's how I came across the JuLe meeting. A meeting for young lesbian and bisexual women, that sounded ideal to me. Then one evening I was ready and decided that this is a good day to go to the JuLe meeting. So I went and was very excited at first, but when I got there I was welcomed very positively and openly and directly involved in the activity. That was a really good feeling of unconditional acceptance and understanding, I felt very comfortable there from the start. It was almost unbelievable for me to be able to meet so many queer people and have a safe place where I could be free and not have to worry about being judged in any way or treated differently because of my sexuality. Suddenly none of that mattered anymore. In the following time I went to the JuLe meetings whenever I could and the time there, as well as the exchange with like-minded people, gave me more and more the feeling of not being alone and not being alone with my problems. That was a great relief and this safe place and the exchange with the people there ultimately helped me to be completely at peace with myself and with the fact that I am a lesbian and to be able to stand by it.

Today I am proud to be who I am. I'm in a relationship with a great woman and I'm having the happiest time of my life with her. I would never have thought it possible before, but now I know that, like everyone else, I deserve to be happy.

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