Is Hillary Clinton sexist

Hillary Clinton talks to R29 about Ivanka, Sexism, Abortion & the Future

Among the many reviews Hillary Rodham Clinton received during her presidential campaign was her clumsy efforts to catch up with millennial voters. Some claimed it was too "forced". Others found that she would “curry favor” - not only with young people, but also with minorities. Even President Obama quipped that she was everyone's "Aunt Hillary" who Facebook doesn't quite understand.
Even so, I (a voter who is Black and Latina) found myself sitting down with the first woman who ever made a real attempt to be elected to the White House and immediately on the same wavelength as her was. When I asked her what role President Clinton played in supporting her election campaign, her face lit up and she touched my arm, smiled, and told me she wished that more young men saw marriage as a balance and supportive partnership. I made a mental note to share this with my husband, if I should ever have one: "Hillary Clinton once told me ..."
When Hillary Clinton arrived at the Human Rights Campaign headquarters in Manhattan to greet the Refinery29 team, there was a warm energy emanating from her that had often been lost through the screen during the campaign. As she sat in front of me, she was the version of the Clinton that those who have known her have described her for a long time: happy and relaxed (“I'm so proud of how much Refinery29 has grown!” She cheered) she quipped good-naturedly about our coincidentally matched ones dark blue pants (“You must have been to my closet!”) and greeted every single person in the room with a handshake, direct eye contact and a few other compliments on the choice of outfit.
At the end of our conversation, I asked her to show her power pose (you have to watch the video to see this moment). And even when the cameras stopped rolling, she took the time to tell our team about the research she'd done on power poses and how each of us can make us feel bigger and bigger work by stretching her arms and legs so that her body took up as much space as possible. She looked completely ridiculous standing so spread out, but you could tell she didn't mind. Rather, I could swear there was a little twinkle in her intensely blue eyes.
Still, amid all the appearances and realities, there is no doubt that Clinton was also a little exhausted. Those same blue eyes seemed a little downcast when we talked about election night and she didn't mince her words when she said how devastating the experience was - neither in our interview nor in her new book what happened, which is available from today. Clinton describes her 500-page retelling of the past two years - written at the dining table of her house in Chappaqua, New York - as "redeeming." She also hopes the book will serve as a guide for young women pursuing careers in the civil service: to arm them for how brutal anything can be.
"Everyone experiences losses," says Clinton. “Not everyone will lose a presidential election, but there will be all sorts of losses and disappointments that are part of nature and life. I pull up the curtain for people to see what it means to be a woman in public, balanced on a high wire with no safety net. "
The book is full of honest deliberation like this one; those that we would have liked more of during the campaign. She shares details about the aftermath of her defeat, including how long walks in the woods and marathons helped her cope with defeat in the first place. She reflects on how tough it was for her as a young mother that her baby Chelsea wouldn't stop crying. She even addresses speculation about her marriage to President Clinton that it is arranged: "That is what is called marriage," she writes. "He's reading something to me over his shoulder from the kitchen while our dogs are at his feet, and a minute later he's going to rearrange the bookshelf for the hundredth time."
And yes, there are some Donald Trump taunts. Clinton becomes surprisingly frank with her adversary, thinking back to how she attended his wedding in 2005 (a "swanky, over-the-top spectacle") and how she "got goosebumps" when he bent over her during the debate. As for the latter, she explains that at that moment she had to decide whether to defend herself against him or behave slowly. “I kept calm. It helped that I had to deal with difficult men my whole life who had constantly tried to make me feel insecure. However, I gripped the microphone extra tightly. "
It's the very part of the book called Sisterhood that led Clinton to talk to us about how it is really was to be the first woman to run for president by a major political party. Even if she does not fully tie the election defeat to her gender, she is aware of its influence on the election campaign. In an exclusive interview with Refinery29, Clinton speaks openly and honestly about women in politics, their hopes for the future, and much more. Here are the highlights:
“I consulted a friend of mine, Sheryl Sandberg, who you know is the COO of Facebook. She and her two best researchers came to see me to brief me before the campaign really began. They said, 'Research shows that the more successful a man becomes, the more popular he becomes. The more professionally successful a woman becomes, the less popular she becomes. ‘We know that ambition is a double-edged sword. It's okay for a young man, or a man of any age, to be ambitious. But an ambitious young woman, or a woman of any age, creates all sorts of inconsistencies in people's minds. "
"Everyone who lives with him (Trump, Editor's note) is associated should be held responsible. You are either on board or you are not. And if they are not, then they should open their mouths or leave. But if they are quiet and pay lip service to contrary opinions, then they are part of his agenda and should be held accountable. "
“When someone who is now our President in the White House makes such degrading comments about women and is the one who was taped saying these things, it gives other people permission to speak out against women, against ours Progress and against our rights to speak out. And I think it is really important that young women realize that we have made progress, of course, but that we all still have to stand up for ourselves, stand up for each other and stand up for the laws we need. We have to take on the sexism that is so widespread and that Trump has given a new impetus. "
“I have to say that I am proud to be a Democrat and I am proud of the progress that has happened in my lifetime. And I will continue to represent the Democratic Party policy. But I don't think it's an either-or. You need a really strong economic message that I think I had but that was hard to get through. And you have to stand up for human rights, social justice and fundamental rights. And a woman's right to control her own body and her health insurance decisions is a fundamental human right. "
“I have a little mantra where I say: defend yourself, get involved and be persistent. Not everyone will run for election, but you can support those who do; whether one is fighting for equal pay between men and women at last uniform rules or that people get health insurance. You can get involved in so much at the moment and I have the feeling that the commitment is there. The passion is there. "