What does the Koran say about love

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The day in July that Elke Müller * is so afraid of is getting closer and closer. The day Anna will be 18 years old. "When she is of legal age, I can no longer legally hold her back." Anna * wants to marry her first great love. Abdul *. If that happens, Elke Müller believes, she could lose her daughter.

Anna doesn't know that her mother is talking to DW. That was important to Elke Müller. She fears that Anna would resent her for taking this step. Still, the mother wanted to talk about her fears. And so that other parents in a similar situation can encourage themselves to seek help. Ms. Müller shows photos of her daughter: Anna as a child, with long hair, laughing. And Anna today: with a serious look at her ID photo, her hair hidden under a headscarf.

Elke Müller lives alone with her two daughters in a big city in the most populous state of North Rhine-Westphalia (NRW). She separated from the girls' father when Anna was still in kindergarten. Anna grows up Protestant, but the family does not go to church regularly.

The great love

When Anna was 14 years old, she met an Afghan boy. Abdul, a handsome teenager with big brown eyes. He came to Germany in autumn 2015 as an unaccompanied minor refugee. One of more than 22,000 minors who, according to the Federal Office for Migration and Refugees, fled to Germany alone in 2015.

In addition to his native Pashto, Abdul spoke only a few words in German at the time. He doesn't have a school leaving certificate. His asylum application was rejected, he is only tolerated in Germany. At the age of 19, he is no longer a minor and can be deported at any time.

She felt sorry for the boy, says Elke Müller. "I almost felt something like maternal instinct for him." She was open to her daughter's new friend and invited him to her home. Anna was downright enchanted by Abdul. "There were only hearts in her eyes," remembers Elke Müller.

With her, however, a queasy feeling soon arose. Because Anna changed. She suddenly started wearing a headscarf and praying to Allah. "I asked Abdul about it. He said she did it voluntarily, he never asked her to." When she was 15, Anna told her mother that she had converted to Islam. At this point, she had been with Abdul for a good nine months. For Elke Müller, Islam was a foreign religion with which she had previously had no points of contact. The foreign scared her. Her own child became a stranger to her.