How subjective is attractiveness

How attractive are you With certain tricks you can find out how others rate you

Assessing your own attractiveness and recognizing signs that others may find you attractive - this is an easy way to do it.

What do others think of me? Am I actually attractive? Everyone has probably asked themselves the question of whether they actually look good and how others perceive them. What do people think of you they meet on the street? What is the first impression you make on others?

Your own assessment is not very reliable. How you judge yourself is highly subjective and depends, for example, on your mood: on some days you are in tune with yourself, feel good and radiate that. On other days, on the other hand, you prefer to avoid the mirror and feel unattractive - although objectively nothing has changed. Your own parents don't count when it comes to this question either: They love their children and find them beautiful, no matter what they look like. (Also Read: Mental Health Day: How To Use Time Out Properly)

There are ways to judge your own attractiveness

So how do you find out what your own attractiveness is like? Of course you could ask other people about it. But hardly anyone wants to take this step - besides, you can't rely on others to tell you the truth in your face at this point. (Also interesting: if you have these 9 qualities, you are ready for a leadership position)

But there is a way to judge your own attractiveness - at least that's what the users of the online network Reddit say. Science also offers a helpful technique for assessing one's appearance.

Discussion on attractiveness on the Internet and among scientists

The discussion on Reddit goes back to an article in which a woman asked how she can determine whether she is actually attractive and whether there are objective criteria for judging how one looks. She writes that although she is told more often that she is attractive, she herself has doubts as to whether that is actually true.

In fact, science has already dealt with this question: The behavioral researchers Nicholas Epley from the University of Chicago and Tal Eyal from Ben Gurion University published a study on attractiveness research in 2010. They claim that there is a way to learn how others rate your own attractiveness. (Also read: Nice about the style: You can hear all episodes of the GQ Podcast here)

Those who see themselves with a certain distance come closer to the answer

The trick is to create a certain distance. We know ourselves far too well to be able to really judge ourselves objectively. The solution is to detach yourself from details like the nose or the eyes and perceive yourself as a whole person like people who see you for the first time. (Also: Expert Tips: How Mindfulness Training Works)

How does it work now? Almost like this: For their study, the scientists had students from the University of Chicago pose for a photo. They were then asked to rate how other people would rate their attractiveness on a scale from one to nine.

See yourself as someone else would perceive you

The procedure in the test groups was different: One group was told that their picture would be rated on the same day. The second group was told that their photo would not be assessed until several months later.

This changed the way participants viewed their photo. The first group put more emphasis on certain details. The participants from the second group, however, paid more attention to the general appearance. In fact, their assessment was significantly closer to the grade others gave them than was the case with the first group. So they were more likely to see each other as a stranger would. (Also worth reading: Meditation: Strengthen the whole body in just 10 minutes)

Internet users mention other aspects that indicate attractiveness

This mental technique is also subjective, of course, but at least it gives a clue. The users at Reddit also discussed in detail signs that reveal that the other person thinks you are attractive. Eye contact seems to be an important factor: According to Reddit users, if someone tries to make eye contact at a meeting on the street, the chances of being attractive are high. If someone stares at you, it tends to be seen as a good sign - unless you have ketchup smeared on your face or clothing.

However, you may not even notice the looks: If a beautiful person is constantly being looked at by others, he may not even notice it because he thinks it's normal. (Also interesting: Avoid stress: It works with these tips from the stress expert)

These signs indicate that others find you attractive

Reddit users also rate it as a sign of attractiveness when strangers smile at you or run through your hair when you meet. It is therefore also a sign of good looks when others get nervous during an encounter, pay special attention when speaking or try to make the other person laugh. (Also interesting: What women really want)

Reddit also sees it as positive when others avoid sitting or standing nearby. The users assume that beautiful people make others nervous. However, avoiding contact in public can mean two things - either someone is very attractive or you look anything but good.

According to Reddit, statistically, most people will likely always run into someone who finds them attractive, even if they don't look like a model. So you can actually stop worrying about the appearance - but if you want to know whether you look good, you should look at yourself from a distance and pay attention to the signs described. (Also Read: Tinder: What Women and Men Really Want There)