What are some life lessons

Seven important lessons people often learn late in life

Many lessons in life come out empowered and wise because they are often learned the hard way.

The hardest part, however, is that sometimes every opportunity doesn't last forever. But you only understand that when it's too late.

If possible, learn these things sooner rather than later.

1. If you want to do what you love, you have to work three times as hard as anyone else.

Most people are not allowed to spend their lives doing what they love. Instead, they do what they're told or what their parents, hometown, friends, or peers suggest.

Or they just don't pursue goals that are really close to their hearts. But if you want to "do what you love," you have to see it as a privilege, not an expectation. These people are not the majority. So if that's what you really want, you have tonow start working for it.

2. There is always fear behind anger.

As wise Yoda says, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hatred leads to unspeakable suffering. ”When we suffer, especially over a long period of time, we first believe that it is something outside of us - something we hate. And if we can get over that feeling, we'll find a whole bunch of anger under that hatred, and certainly something we've held onto for far too long.

But there is always fear underneath it. Fear of losing someone or something. Fear of getting hurt. Fear of letting go. But when you get to the point where you can acknowledge your fear, you will see its serene shadow, compassion. And then you will be able to move on.

3. Our daily habits become our future selves.

What you are doing today is another activity that contributes to what you will be tomorrow. If you repeat this activity over a week, you are already close to changing. If you repeat this activity over a month, you will start to notice a small difference.

If you repeat this activity over a year - or two years, or five years - you may not recognize yourself. You will have completely changed in that particular way. Never underestimate the power of any little habit that repeats over time. Regardless of whether they change you for better or worse, your habits ultimately determine who you will be.

4. Your feelings need practice.

When we think of practice we often mean improving skills. You practice the piano or you practice playing hockey. But the thing is, you also have to practice who you are emotionally. You can practice humility, you can practice forgiveness.

You can practice self-esteem and humor just as easily as anger, dislike, drama, and argument. Who you are emotionally is a reflection of the things that you consciously (or unconsciously) practice. You were not “born” angry. You have only practiced this feeling more than, for example, joy.

5. Everyone has their own intentions.

That may sound a bit like a cliché and is often said in a negative context. But I use it differently: At the end of the day, you should be able to see that we all have to take care of ourselves. We all have our own dreams, goals, hopes, families, close friends and significant other, and we all want the same basic things.

There are of course those you can trust, but the best way to stay calm is to be aware that everyone has their own agenda. You cannot control others. You cannot expect them to put you above themselves. Trying to do this may work for a while, but ultimately the truth will show.

Instead, you should make a point of addressing others' dreams and helping them achieve them, just as you require them to help you with yours. The relationship will then be much easier to move in the right direction.

6. Success will never be as fulfilling as getting there.

It is one thing to set a goal and use the help of others to enforce success. It is a completely different thing to sacrifice your own well-being and that of the people around you for a goal and its success.

The sense of achievement will never end up being worth the emotional burden it takes to get there. If you are not able to enjoy the path with the people around you, the destination will become meaningless at the end of the path.

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7. Hard work and laughter are not mutually exclusive.

I never understood why people feel like laughing is not taking the situation seriously. The best ideas come from serenity. The best flow happens in moments of happiness. The human connection begins with laughter. Try to laugh as you work and laugh at the solution of a problem. Because that means being open to new possibilities.

Some people never learn this - they get grumpy and old. But life is about having fun. And having fun does not necessarily mean “nothing to do” from the outset. On the contrary. You can have fun and do more than you could ever imagine.

Translated by Stefanie Kemmner