Trust really is work in any relationship

Why trust is important for a happy life

What forms of trust are there?

When it comes to the topic of "trust", your first association may be trust in your partner, which is often not easy for fear of disappointment. But there are other forms that determine your life in all directions:


Self-confidence
Trust in your own abilities and your attitude towards yourself are the absolute basis for trusting others. If you do not trust yourself, you automatically project this uncertainty and this distrust onto others. That is why the path to a happy life is through strong self-confidence.

Foreign trust
We deal with other people all our lives. It starts with the family, later friends, acquaintances and colleagues join. A creative, happy togetherness is only possible through mutual trust. That is why it is important to trust other people for a contented life.

Trust in relationships
The partner is the person whom we allow the closest to us. Ideally, we would give him our fullest trust and get it back. A breach of trust in a relationship usually leaves the deepest wounds. On the other hand, a trusting partnership means the greatest happiness.

The trust of others in you
In a healthy relationship, trust is always mutual. How do other people see you? Can they trust you? We can only get back what we send out.

Basic trust
Everything will be fine. This mantra is based on a great basic trust that everything in life has a purpose and that things will somehow fall into place. This universal trust is independent of belief and religion and often disappears after a few blows of fate, but can be rediscovered.

Probably the most important form is self-confidence. Because without trust in your own abilities and values, it is difficult to trust other people. In order to become more trusting in the partnership, the job or in the circle of acquaintances, you should first consolidate the basis in yourself and fight your self-doubts.

How do I learn to trust after a disappointment?

Granted, this task is not an easy one. Because the pain of a failed relationship or the breach of trust by close friends or colleagues is often very deep. The fact that you are then increasingly suspicious is pure self-protection from renewed injuries. However, this causes your soul to suffer, and distrust of other people prevents you from being happy. But you can work on trusting other people - and yourself - more again:

You don't have to know everything.
You cannot completely control your partner. Just as you have your little secrets, the other can also have their secrets. Think carefully about which things, experiences or private details you would like to keep to yourself. You will surely come up with a few things. The mere fact that you want to keep some things secret is by no means a breach of trust. Everyone has the same right, so don't drive yourself crazy if your partner doesn't tell you everything. The less he feels controlled, the more trust he will give you back.

Listen to your gut feeling.
Because there is also blind trust that might plunge you into disaster. If your head would like to trust your partner, friends or work colleague, but your stomach is going wrong, then your mistrust may have a reason. The other way around, however, you shouldn't look specifically for reasons not to trust the other person. Because sometimes there just aren't any. You can learn healthy trust if you trust your intuition.

Put aside your fears.
Today many suffer from fears of loss, injury, or failure. It can even be instructive to fail or make the wrong decision. Experience makes you stronger. Therefore, free yourself from such fears and trust your own abilities and those of others.

Work on your trustworthiness.
Can others rely on you? Do they see you as a sincere person? Maybe you should work on yourself and your impact on others. Because if you are not trusted, it will of course also be more difficult for you to trust.

Get help.
Since trust is essential for a happy life, you shouldn't be afraid to get professional help. Perhaps you are too stuck in the pain of disappointment to work on yourself. Psychological counseling or special courses can show you the way to more trust step by step.


Keep in mind: The world is not against you and not everyone is a fraud. With healthy trust, you can develop a positive attitude that others will reward with more trust.