How effective is online dating in Singapore

Data on data: With which pick-up you will advance on Tinder

Eddy Azar was having a hard time on Tinder. He and his wife Asha were looking for sexual adventures in Singapore, she was successful - he was not. At some point he tried every woman he found reasonably attractive. He rarely had a match. And if they did, the date never came. The women transferred him on two dates and otherwise he had a lot of contacts with users he didn't want to go out with, the 22-year-old reports on his blog.

One afternoon his wife took over the chats and arranged two dates in half an hour. They live in an open relationship - Asha wanted to support him. Eddy was surprised. Well, and relieved. Lucky, at least it wasn't his looks. But what then?

Eddy opened a spreadsheet and began to statistically evaluate his attempts. With 1049 swipes, he had no match 93 percent of the time. Users were only interested in it in 74 cases.

Well Only about seven percent of the women Eddy liked liked him. The population of his following attempts is correspondingly small: Next, he evaluated the messages to which he received a response. Here are its variants:

  • A comment on the user's photos
  • Interesting question, random
  • A joke about her name
  • Surname! :)
  • A comment on the user's self-description
  • Hey (Sometimes with an exclamation mark, sometimes with a smiley)
  • A gif
  • ... or she wrote to him.

If he commented on the photos, 91 percent of the users answered him, with a name joke only 28 percent. He had the longest conversations when the woman wrote to him. Eddy even kissed his date once, and the two slept together several times.

His conclusion is difficult: Comments on the description of the user would lead to a longer message exchange. A comment on a photo would also not automatically increase the likelihood of getting the phone number. The conclusion ignores how Eddy fares in the conversation that follows the first message. My guess: not that good. But at least he slept with a woman, congratulations at this point.

But what we can learn: Eddy's name jokes don't work that well. At least if he expects an answer. My former colleague Pilz was open to name jokes, for my part I am quite sure that after almost 30 years I have heard them all.

Gifs or a simple hey didn't get Eddy very far either, that should have pulled his Tinder score down quite a bit. All in all, Eddy got private contact data in 15 percent of his attempts - due to the small population that is only ten women. He arranged dates with nine of them.

[Also on The story of Michelle Thomas, who settles up with body shaming after a bad Tinder date.]

The experiment continues and Eddy has now also persuaded others to collect data on data with him. Can this become a generally applicable Tinder strategy? Rather not. But unsuccessful online flirters should perhaps find out for themselves which sayings do not go down so well with the loved ones.

By the way, my thesis for Eddy's failure is different. Here's the scenario: A woman sees an attractive guy on Tinder: Eddy. The face fits, the woman swipes to the right. It's a match! She writes, he writes. Then the woman looks in profile, scrolls down. And there Eddy writes about his life with strange smileys and then mentions at the very end that he lives in an open relationship.

So my motivation would be gone. Dating tip from me: Don't write bullshit. Online dating does not release you from the wretched compulsion not to behave like monkeys towards women.