What is it like to really know yourself

Who am I: Guide with 50 questions for self-discovery

To live a happy life, you have to know yourself. The question “Who am I?” Is therefore central to both professional and personal success. Knowing who you are, what you really want and where to go - these are the most important insights in life. Finding the answers to these questions is not easy, however. Often it is like a lifelong process. After all, we are constantly developing. Here you will find answers to the question Who am I really? - plus 50 helpful questions for orientation ...

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Self-awareness: who am I?

“Who am I - and if so, how many?” Is the title of a bestseller by the philosopher Richard David Precht that is well worth reading. Not only philosophy has dealt with the question “Who am I?” For many centuries. Theology - for example Dietrich Bonhoeffer in his famous text of the same name - illuminates this idea spiritually. The question “Who am I?” Has even found its way into the entertainment industry. There is more than just a song about this question, plus a popular online or board game with this title.

The search for ourselves is traditionally important to us. In times when it is more and more important to develop one's personality and to regularly reflect one's characteristics, values, interests, goals, strengths and weaknesses, more and more people ask themselves the question “Who am I?” In order to become more successful To lead life.

The desire to discover undiscovered sides of oneself

Behind this, however, is the fear of being able to regret something on your deathbed and, in retrospect, not having lived life according to your own ideas. The question “Who am I?” Should not be driven by fear or a blind mania for self-optimization, but rather by the curiosity to discover previously undiscovered sides of oneself. In this way, self-knowledge is not just a necessary evil, but an everlasting journey on which there is something new to discover every day.

Who am I test: guide with 50 questions

You want to find out who you really are, get to know yourself better and drive the process of self-discovery forward. You are already on the right path, but now you have to ask yourself the question: How do I even find out who I am?

The bad news: It is not easy to find yourself and it requires that you question yourself critically in part. On the other hand, the good news is that there are numerous questions to orient yourself by that, taken together, give a good picture of who you really are. In the following we have put together 50 questions that together help to find an insightful answer to the question “Who am I?”:

Questions about my strengths

  • What is my greatest strength?
  • Which of my characteristics do I particularly like?
  • What is my greatest achievement so far?
  • What have other people praised me for?
  • What am I better at than others?
  • What do I learn quickly?
  • Which profession did I want to learn in the past?

Questions about my weaknesses

  • What is my greatest weakness?
  • What do I regret in my life?
  • Which quality do I like least about myself?
  • What is it that particularly annoys me?
  • What have other people criticized me for more often?
  • What was my biggest defeat?

Questions about my goals

  • What is a good life for me?
  • Where do I set priorities?
  • What do I really want to achieve?
  • How do I want to be remembered by other people?
  • Who do I always want to impress?
  • How important is the opinion of others to me?
  • What would I like to change in my life?
  • What should my life be like in five years?
  • When would I be happy with my life?
  • In retrospect, how should my life have looked like in old age?
  • What else do I really want to see in my life?
  • What would you like to leave behind?
  • What would I do if I could be sure I wouldn't fail?

Questions about my feelings

  • What am I most afraid of?
  • What do I envy other people for?
  • What makes me unhappy
  • Do I tend to listen to my head or my stomach?
  • When was the last time I felt really happy?
  • Am I happy or sad more often?
  • What did all the people I was in love with have in common?

Questions about my values

  • What am I striving for?
  • Which people are particularly important to me?
  • What is my fondest memory?
  • What and who do I need to be fine?
  • What would I fight for if I had to?
  • Which values ​​are particularly important to me in other people?
  • What would I change in the world immediately if I could?
  • Which basic attitude is particularly important to me in my fellow human beings?

Questions about my interests

  • When am I particularly happy?
  • What inspires my enthusiasm?
  • Where do I find the greatest inspiration?
  • Where is my greatest passion?
  • What would I miss if it wasn't there anymore?
  • What topic do I read a lot about?
  • What do I like to talk about?
  • What would I like to know more about?
  • Who would like to swap their lives with for a day?
  • What would I do if I only had one year left to live?

Finding yourself is a process

It is important to know that your personal development is a never-ending process. Who you are is not a final state. Over time, you change, as does the world around you. In other words: keep questioning who you are and reflect on whether some views, values ​​or goals may have changed. By your mid 40s, you're probably not the same person you were when you were in your early 20s. A lot can happen in such a period of time. In order to be happy in the long term, you should therefore understand the question “Who am I?” As an ongoing process. You will not find a definitive answer to this. But can you find out at any given point in time "Who am I now?"

Who am I really?

"Of course I know exactly who I am ..." - many are convinced of it. The problem: What we understand as our own attitudes, values ​​or goals does not necessarily have something to do with who or what we really are. Often we get these things exemplified by the environment. Family, friends, society and especially in this day and age social media convey a picture of who we want to be.

A simple example: On the Internet you will see countless successful people who are self-employed, earn a lot of money and travel across the globe. Looks good, so that's what you want. Or all of your friends are studying. No question about it, you too are looking for a course and doing a bachelor's or master's degree. Far too seldom is the question asked: Is this really who I am? Instead, a lot is taken over as one's own opinion without reflection.

Please do not get us wrong: Of course, the environment shapes your own way of thinking and behavior. Just don't let yourself be pretended to be who you are. Instead, always make your own thoughts, question them and find an answer to the question: "Who am I?"

Explanation: 5 reasons to know each other better

We like to believe that nobody knows us as well as we do. But if you are completely honest: When was the last time you thought intensely about the question “Who am I?”? When did you ask yourself one or more of the questions listed above? If that was a long time ago: Use today to do so (where you are already here)! It is never too late to start thinking about who am I? The sooner you get to know each other, the better. The advantages:

  • You are pursuing your goals
    If you can't even answer the question “Who am I?”, You don't know what goals you are pursuing in life - whether professionally or privately. Only when you know yourself do you realize what you want to achieve in the future. With the question "Who am I" you always answer the second important question "What do I want?"
  • You make individual decisions
    With the knowledge of who you are, you can make decisions that are tailored to your individual ideas and needs. You can choose the path that suits you exactly and that is optimal for you.
  • You cannot be manipulated
    If you are unsure of who you are, the risk of others taking advantage of you increases. Others will tell you what to do, what is right and wrong - you are being manipulated. However, as soon as you know who you are, you can see very clearly when someone is trying to influence you or talk you into something.
  • You realize your own worth
    The answer to the question “Who am I?” Can give rise to tremendous self-confidence. You develop a stable personality, appreciate yourself and recognize your own worth. At the same time, this means that your self-esteem is no longer linked to the opinion of others or positive feedback.
  • You will be happier
    Taken together, if you know who you are, you will be happier and more satisfied in all areas. The knowledge of who you are, what you need and what you want, gives great security in life. From this you can develop yourself further and get closer to your personal goals.

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17th December 2020Author: Jochen Mai

Jochen Mai is the founder and editor-in-chief of the career bible. The author of several books lectures at the TH Köln and is a sought-after keynote speaker, coach and consultant.

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